The race has already started….Why are you not at the finish line?

As young women there is a struggle. The world is watching our every move. Often life is based on status, so we do whatever it is to obtain one. No one wants to be broke, suffer or struggle therefore we strive to make a way sometimes out of no way. We all at one point come across an obstacle. Whether it is finishing school, raising a child, keeping and/or obtaining a job. We are all in this together trying to accomplish the same thing. This struggle becomes a competition. Competition is good in some instances because you push the other person to advance. Motivate that other person because she also reaching for number one.

The part that amazes me is we compete secretly. We gossip about her. We withhold personal information because we are afraid that she will judge. We race to do thing first so we can chant “been there done that”. We get in all kinds of debt because we want a bigger house and fancier car. We lie on her and gossip about her to make ourselves feel better.

We are women. She is you.

I have been judge before not by my character but what I have. Just because I am not a mother does not mean I look down on young mothers or women who had children out of wedlock. Just because I haven’t been trouble with the law does not mean I should feel bad about being honest. The way I talk or carry myself shouldn’t be consider conceited but well-mannered.

The theory is this when you see another woman doing well take note of that same behavior and learn the good from it. Model that behavior let her be an example. Hate someone or hating on them takes too much energy and you are doing nothing but draining yourself. Mistakes happen keep moving. The same person that you secretly compete with can help you get to where you need to me. Teach you daughters the same. We have to break this cycle.


LNP… I LOVE YOU ALL MORE BECAUSE I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO LOVE LESS