Keys to a Healthy Relationship

We know how to identify a bad relationship. Even though some may not want to accept it, but we have an idea when our relationship is going downhill. Instead of always talking about bad relationships, I decided to inform my girls on how to create a healthy relationship. I created some key points of establishing a good relationship. A lot of my points come from experience as well as my need to ask older and wiser couples. I search through my blackberry list through all my contacts. I knew all of them could help me share their experiences with our youth. Whether they were business or personal, at this point their opinions mattered the most:

(Communication, Trust, Honesty, and Compromising were the MAIN replies)
These (4) most people consider are the most important.

Communication- hands down!! Everything you say has two meanings, which means it is questionable. Never assumed, just ask. Communication helps you avoid arguments.

*Include God in you relationship

*Treat your partner as an equal. Don’t believe the hype. Things should be 50/50.

*Understanding- open to hear each other sides. Most of the time you will interpret things differently.

*Trust is very important. You have to be able to trust your partner in good and bad times.

*Loyalty is a must. Be loyal and always respect your partner.

*Humor- It takes great sense of humor to survive any relationship. Laughing at the moment when you could cry and fuss is powerful.

*Dependability

*Compromising

*Honesty

*Be able to believe in that person

*Patience

*Compatibility- someone described compatibility as independence, which explains which mean meeting your partner halfway as far as needs and accomplishments.


*No matter how busy you are always make time for each other.

*Involve your partner is your life. Invite your partner out with your friends at times.

*Keep the relationship spicy. Try new things like vacations and new restaurants.

*Remember to learn to have fun together.

*Forgive- It IS okay to forgive but not forget if you don’t forgive the other person you will walk around with the burden. Bringing up old things from the past can cause strain.


*Friendship- a lot of people establish relationship but don’t truly know who the person really is. It is even worse when you establish a sexual relationship before a friendship.


*Consider your partner feelings; protect their feelings, mind and heart.

*Sex that pleases both parties involved.

*Sex that makes both partners comfortable.

*When Angry, try not to argue-you may regret it later. WORDS HURT.

*Do NOT go to BED MAD!!

*Be a firm believer in what u want- when you want something from your partner, be firm, no tears.

*Do not start name-calling or belittling

*It is better to talk to partner about your problems than someone else

*Hitting is always unacceptable

*Establish goals for your future

*Make sure finances are in order. Good credit is important.




REMEMBER:

Respect yourself. Love yourself. You cannot love someone else until you take care of that first.

Be responsible for your happiness. Don’t depend on your partner to make you happy. It may cause confusion.

Thank you all for your help. This information may help you or help someone else. I will later produce some of this valuable information on pamphlets and distribute to my youth. I love words of ENCOURAGEMENT. People like you make the world go round. :)

“AT YOUR BEST YOU ARE LOVED”

LNP